Create a More Flexible Mind

Create a More Flexible Mind

By Leo Babauta

Posted on June 22, 2026

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There was a time in my life when I was addicted to junk food, fast food, comfort foods. These days, I still enjoy the taste of those foods, but nothing tastes as good as healthy, whole foods.

The switch for me was gradual, not instant. It was also intentional. And I’m so glad I made the change.

These days, I eat mostly whole plant foods (I’m vegan): beans, nuts, seeds, lentils, tofu and tempeh, whole grains, lots of veggies, lots of fruit. And it’s delicious.

I also mostly cut out sugar and fried foods, and completely cut out meats and other animal products including dairy, and am currently not drinking alcohol (for the last 5 months). These changes don’t feel like sacrifices to me.

If you’d like to make the switch to loving healthy food, let’s look at how to make it painless, delicious, and very much not a sacrifice.

What We’re Moving Toward

It can be really helpful to start by envisioning what you’d like to move toward — what would a healthy diet look like for you? What kinds of healthy foods would you like to include? (Don’t limit yourself to what you already like.)

You don’t have to envision a vegan diet (although maybe consider it!) … just think about what would be healthy for you. I encourage you to think about whole foods over processed.

For me, I love to include healthy bowls: grains with proteins (tofu, tempeh, beans, lentils) and veggies and a simple sauce or hummus. Maybe some nuts or seeds to go with it. I also love huge salads with all of these things included, or soups or chili full of beans and veggies. But you could think of healthy tacos, stir-fries, or wraps.

Envision the healthy meals, and try to think of them in a positive light — not only will these help make you healthier, they are delicious and lovely!

Making a Slow, Lovely Transition

Now that we have the vision, I encourage a slow transition. You might be tempted to go for the whole enchilada (so to speak) right away … and if that feels super doable to you, go for it. But sometimes it can help to go slower.

For example, maybe there are some healthy foods that you don’t really like — green vegetables, tomatoes, beans, for example. Maybe you’re interested in tofu or tempeh but aren’t used to them. Maybe you are used to lots of sugar and fried foods and eating foods that don’t have added sugar and aren’t fried seems terrible to you.

In that case, here’s what I suggest:

• Start with the healthy changes that would be easy for you. If you already like apples, feel free to just add apples for now. Maybe you also like carrots. Add those too! Get some easy wins.
• Gradually add the other things that don’t feel so intimidating. No need to buy everything you hate and try to thug it out. Go with the ones you can tolerate reasonably well, and start to acclimatize yourself in them.
• Focus on savoring and enjoyment. As you pay close attention, and try to find the elements of the textures and tastes that you enjoy, you’ll start to appreciate the food more.
• Harder foods: there will be foods you don’t love — but you can grow to love them, if you slowly acclimatize yourself and start to appreciate the more subtle qualities of the food. I have grown to love so many healthy foods that I didn’t before. Sometimes it helps to season them in a way that’s more palatable, or try different ways to prepare. Give yourself time.

There’s no rush. You have a lifetime to learn to enjoy these foods.

The Role of Identity

This kind of shift requires a shift in identity. You might think of yoursef as someone who doesn’t like these kinds of foods, or someone who “has to have” their sugar drinks or snacks, for example. This is your old identity.

A new identity could be someone who love all kinds of healthy, delicious foods, and someone who doesn’t need junk food to be happy or to deal with stress. It’s a new identity that’s resilient in the face of stress.

So my encouragement is to start to shift how you see yourself. Let go of the old, limiting way you think about yourself in relation to food. And start to craft a new version, that is empowered and ready to enjoy a new kind of life.

with love,

Leo Babauta

Zen Habits

• https://zenhabits.net/

What to Do When You’re Triggered

What to Do When You’re Triggered

By Leo Babauta

Posted on May 6, 2025

Whether it’s personal relationships, rude people, or crazy things happening in the world … we all get emotionally triggered sometimes. We get frustrated, angry, hurt, shut down, and so on.

The question isn’t “will I ever get triggered?” … it’s “what can I do when I get triggered?” This will be a quick guide.

The first thing is to notice that you’re triggered — your nervous system is activated and you’re upset. A lot of people don’t notice. They just take action in an angry or panicky way, which doesn’t usually lead to the best outcomes. So if you can notice you’re triggered, you’ll be able to do something about it rather than being on autopilot.

Second, take a moment to pause. That might mean taking a moment to just sit still and breathe. Or if you’re in an argument with someone, take a time out for a bit. Get out of the situation if possible. If that’s not possible, then take a few deep breaths.

Third, deepen and slow the breath. This might sound obvious to some, but it’s notable that few people actually practice this when they’re triggered, because in that moment of nervous system activation, we forget. So take a moment and slow down the breath. Deepen it into the belly instead of just the upper chest (shallow breathing). This slower, deeper breathing will shift your nervous system out of fight-or-flight mode into a calmer mode.

Fourth, notice you’re caught in a narrative and probably an overreaction. You’re likely caught up in habitual thoughts about the other person, about yourself, or about the situation. “Why do they always have to do that?” and other thoughts like that. There’s nothing wrong with this narrative/thought pattern, but it’s probably an old pattern from long ago, and might not be the most helpful for you. Just realizing this is huge. It’s also good to realize that you’re likely reacting from some hurt from years past, and reacting from hurt is often an overreaction. There’s nothing wrong with overreacting when we’re hurt, but just realizing it is important.

Validate your feelings but don’t let them rule. Your feelings are your feelings — you’re not wrong for feeling them. Instead of telling yourself you shouldn’t be overreacting or you shouldn’t be upset … try acknowledging and validating your feelings. You can do that by just saying to yourself, “I’m upset. I’m hurt. And that’s OK, it makes complete sense to feel this way.” If you do that, you’ll allow your feelings to feel seen and acknowledged, and they can calm down a bit.

Find a healthy way to process your emotions and take a calmer action. Sometimes it can help to go for a walk, to vent to someone, to do some exercise to get the energy out, to scream into a pillow, or to soothe yourself. Once you’ve processed those emotions (don’t ignore them if you can), then find a calm action that will help yourself or the situation. For example, taking responsibility and apologizing can often help. Or sharing your feelings in a vulnerable way. Or speaking clearly but calmly about your boundaries. Or leaving the situation. What would be most helpful to everyone involved?

Leo Babauta

Zen Habits

• https://zenhabits.net/

When Your Cup is Empty

When Your Cup is Empty

By Leo Babauta

Posted on April 26, 2025

I’ve been talking to a lot of people lately who feel depleted, and not energized or motivated in the work they’re doing. They feel more irritated at others, and feeling like everything is a burden.

This is how it feels when your cup is empty. You’ve given a lot, you’ve served others, but now you’re feeling resentful or battered by it all.

How do we deal with this? Do we just power through? Do we give ourselves positive affirmations? Do we shut it all down and remove ourselves from society?

These are all reasonable ideas, but I don’t find any of them really work well. There’s another way — let’s talk about how to deal with this kind of situation.

Recognize You’re in This Place

If you don’t realize your cup is empty, you can’t do anything about it. So awareness is the most important step.

Here are some signs to look for:

• You’re feeling drained and exhausted
• You don’t feel motivated to do anything
• People irritate you more than usual
• Everything feels like a burden
• You’re feeling resentful for having to take care of others
• You don’t care about things as much as you normally do

First of all, there’s nothing wrong with feeling any of this! It’s a very human thing to feel, and a consequence of doing a lot in the world. Anyone who leads or serves will feel this sometimes.

So how do we deal with this? Let’s talk about some strategies.

Take Care of Yourself

The first thing to notice is that you’re feeling battered by the world, and very tender. Lots of people want to power through this, and force themselves to do something. Or they want to give up. Neither is that helpful.

Instead, take care of these battered and tender feelings:

1. Ask yourself what your inner rawness needs — some rest, space, deeper breath, compassion?
2. If needed, give yourself a bit of a break — some space and rest. Postpone some meetings, put some things off, let yourself recover.
3. Care about how you’re feeling rather than avoiding it. Start to act as if it’s OK to feel this way, and that it matters to you. Give yourself some love and compassion.

What kind of rest do you need? What kinds of comforting things would be helpful?

I find it helpful for myself if I create some space for rest by moving appointments and having a wide-open day or two. Then I take naps, go out in nature for walks, or get in some hugs from my wife and kids. Or do something fun. Or comforting: I like hot tea, a hot shower, cuddling and watching a movie, making vegan chocolate chip cookies.

How to Get Yourself to a More Open Place

Let’s say you did the two things above — recognize you’re in a battered and tender place, and do what you can to take care of yourself … now what?

What if you want to get yourself to a more open place, where you are lit up by your work and by life? Where you are excited to work with other people?

I don’t think it’s something that should be forced. We can’t force the heart to open.

That said, the heart will open when we’ve created the right conditions:

• You’ve cared about how you feel, and paid attention to it
• You’ve taken care of yourself, given yourself space, rest, breath, presence, love, nurturing, or whatever you need
• You do something heart-opening: gratitude, wonder, joy, love, compassion for others or yourself

These don’t have to be done all at once, nor are they sequential. You might give yourslef some rest first, then care about how you feel, then do something small that’s heart-opening, then repeat a few times in small doses.

In fact, I’d say small doses usually work best. Just a little of each, whatever feels good instead of what you should do.

Heart opening things include:

• Spending a few minutes thinking of 3 things you’re grateful for today
• Going on a wonder walk and letting yourself find awe in nature
• Sending a small love note to someone you care about
• Letting yourself do something fun and joyful (dancing, playing games, frolicking in the ocean)
• Feeling compassion for someone who is suffering

Don’t force yourself to do any of these things. Do them when they feel good.

One little step at a time, your heart will open. Then you’ll be ready to take on your inspired life.

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with love,

Leo Babauta

Zen Habits

• https://zenhabits.net/

Thoughts on Healthy Eating

Thoughts on Healthy Eating

By Leo Babauta

Posted on November 19, 2024

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Eating healthy is something I’ve been a bit obsessed with for the last couple of decades, and I’ve transformed my eating in some really fundamental ways:

• I eat way less junk food than before
• I have developed a real love for whole, nutritious foods
• I’m vegan (for ethical reasons)
• I don’t often eat to comfort myself (sometimes I do)
• When I do eat comfort foods, I’m no longer harsh with myself

These are huge transformations for me, and they’ve changed my health and my mindset towards health.

At 51 years old, I feel incredibly healthy — and I’d like to share my thoughts on healthy eating, in case it might help. That doesn’t mean I think I’m perfect, or even better than anyone else — but I always appreciate learning from how others approach healthy eating, and I’m hoping you’ll appreciate my approach.

How I Think About Healthy Eating

I used to think about healthy eating as this sacrifice that I needed to make in order to be “good” — whatever that means. Like, if I was eating unhealthy foods, then it was something shameful I was doing to myself.

As you can imagine, that’s not very helpful. Society gives us messages that we should be ashamed if we eat junk food (it’s even in the name), when all we’re really trying to do is enjoy good food, or comfort ourselves. These are not shameful things!

That said, I do think there are foods that are nourishing for my body, and help it to grow into something strong, alive, and prepared to handle life’s challenges.

And so I don’t shame myself anymore for eating sweets, fried foods, snacks … I enjoy them! But I also have found the eating approach that makes me feel amazing in my life, and that’s what I try to do most of the time.

What I Find Important

The most important thing to me are to eat whole, plant foods … most of the time.

Those include:

• Vegetables of all kinds (especially greens)
• Beans & lentils
• Whole grains (including brown rice, oats, etc.)
• Potatoes of various kinds
• Fruits of ALL kinds!
• Nuts and seeds

If my meal is almost all whole plant foods, then I feel incredible. These foods are so good for my body.

Now, I don’t think animal foods are necessarily bad for you — you don’t have to be vegan to be healthy. If I were to eat animal foods, I would probably eat mostly fish and some poultry, but I don’t see a need to do so for my health, and would prefer not to harm other beings if it’s not absolutely necessary.

I thrive on these foods, and my health is excellent (I do get everything tested every year or so).

My Favorite Meals & Foods

So what do meals look like when you eat mostly whole plant foods? Well, there’s a TON of incredible recipes out there, but I’m pretty boring. I eat mostly the same meals every day, because it’s just easier for me to prepare a big batch and not have to think about it.

Some of my favorites:

• Lentils & steamed kale — I eat a big plate of cooked green/brown lentils and kale, and season it all with soy sauce, lemon juice, olive oil, cayenne powder, and nutritional yeast (a recipe from my friend Jesse)
• Lentil soup — I sautee onions, mushrooms, carrots and broccoli in my Instant Pot, then throw in lentils, kale, cubed tofu and veggie broth with spices (rosemary, thyme, sage, bay leaves, black pepper). High pressure for 10 minutes, put some lemon juice or balsamic vinegar on top to season
• Oats with berries or bananas and seeds, with cinnamon
• Tofu scramble with lots of veggies
• Baked sweet potato with hummus and avocado!
• Bananas with peanut butter is my treat
• Protein shake with pea protein and soy milk if I do a weight workout

I also love vegan chili, veggie burgers, pasta, lasagna, Thai curry, and more. But the meals above are my faves.

How I Learned to Love These Foods

I’ll admit, I didn’t always love vegetables, or things like lentils or quinoa or tofu. I was a meat eater, and loved fast food and snacks.

The way I learned to love the foods I mentioned above is … slowly.

First, I adapted my favorite dishes to be slightly more healthy. I diced up carrots and greens and put it in spaghetti sauce and chili. I would eat a small side salad with my dishes, and season it with crunchy things.

Then I would eat veggies with things that made them taste better — hummus, salad dressing. I’d eat sweet potatoes with butter and cinnamon.

Eventually I really embraced veggies, and would eat a HUGE salad for lunch, and would make steamed or raw veggies the biggest part of my meals.

Finally, I slowly started to cut out sugar from many of my meals, fried less of my foods, and cut out greasy things for the most part. And explored more and more delicious healthy foods.

Staying on the Path

I’ll admit, I go on stretches where I don’t eat the healthiest … maybe a couple of weeks where we have a lot of visitors and I’ll just eat whatever we’re making for them, or eat out a lot more. I tend to eat less healthily during the holidays, or when I travel. I’m OK with all of that!

I’ve learned to not beat myself up, and just enjoy the food. Why not enjoy life?

But then I’ve learned to just get back on track. Each day is a fresh start, where I can decide what will nourish my body the most. And more and more, I make choices that are delicious and nutritious, and are a part of the life that I love.

with love,

Leo Babauta

Zen Habits

https://zenhabits.net/