Adjusting

Adjusting

Life Tapestry Creations

Channel: Brenda Hoffman

March 24, 2025

 

 

 

Dear Ones,

Maybe you think that you are doing something wrong, that others are finding joy while you remain stuck in fear or pain.  Instead, you are wearing joy blinders, negating your ability to know how you are evolving.

Even though you have likely had some wonderful experiences in the past few days, one negative thought or action returned you to 3D fear.  Such is expected because living in love and joy is a new concept.  You are much more familiar – and comfortable – in your 3D fear world.

Allow yourself to float through the day more than you have the past few days – ignoring or deleting your fear thoughts and focusing on positive elements that may have always been in your life, but you lacked the Earth training to acknowledge that such was so.

Of course, that last statement angers many of you because you expected immediate sparkles and unadulterated joy, proving you are a new being in a new world.  Such is not how this transition is happening.  It is more of a steady pace than an instant shift.  Neither your physicality nor your emotional state allows you to completely shift from fear to love in one hour, day, or even a few days.  Instead, it is a steady build-up to a new you in this new world.

Even though you have experienced loving moments, actions, or thoughts, you continue to focus on what you are most comfortable with – fear.  Perhaps it is fear in your personal life or worldview, but it is always a fear that prepares you to handle the next emergency.

You have nothing to fear.

Both your body and emotions are slowly adapting to the new being you are becoming.  Even though the next few days will increase your knowingness of the love held deep within you for Earth eons, you will likely jump back and forth between 3D fear and new you love for a little while.  Not because you have to but because 3D fear is so deeply ingrained you will return to it despite your interest in and need for this new world of love.

You return to 3D fear at the slightest opportunity—not because you are enamored of 3D fear, but because it is still easier to live with than the new you love. This adjustment is similar to adjusting to a new computer program that provides more capabilities but does not seem logical initially.

Do not fret; the changes encouraging new radiance will continue pummeling your being and Earth for the next few days.  Within two weeks, you will discover how easy your new you program has become and how radiant that program is within your world.

Many of you feel powerless because your internal being is reconfiguring and updating.  However, you will soon know where you want to be and why, both within your being and in your world.

This new world program is a given; you are merely adjusting to it with thoughts of how difficult it is instead of accepting that your inner being will create a sense of ease once all the pieces are in place.

Realize that the Universal shifts occurring in the next few days are changing your inner being and outer world minute-by-minute, so there is not much to grasp other than you are changing.  Change creates fear, which has been a truism for 3D eons.  The difference is that this fear will shift into joy and peace instead of the 3D calamity you are most used to.

So allow yourself to relax.  All is well in your world as you change from fear to love – not in isolation but as part of a movement that will shift both the Earth and the Universes.

Life is good and continues to improve minute by minute despite your need to remain fearful, not in the moment’s reality but because of your historical 3D experiences.

So be it.

 

Brenda Hoffman

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The Physics of Motivating Yourself

The Physics of Motivating Yourself

By Leo Babauta

Posted on February 22, 2025

Most people have only a hazy idea of how to motivate themselves. Getting ourselves to do something we know we want to do — a big project, exercise, etc. — can be really hard.

But actually, the way motivation works is pretty straightforward physics. We’re talking about things like force and inertia, not quantum mechanics.

Let’s take a look at how motivation works, so we can understand how to put it into effect.

Inertia vs. Energy

The first thing to understand is that there’s always an initial hurdle to overcome when you want to get started (or restarted) with something. If you are starting a new project or habit, there’s Inertia to overcome.

Even if you’re just trying to get started with your focus block for the day, you’ll face Inertia.

It’s important to simply recognize that there’s Inertia when we’re starting, and to recognize that it takes some Energy to overcome that.

If you’re low on Energy for any reason … that makes it harder to overcome the Inertia. Maybe you haven’t gotten good sleep, maybe you’ve been sick or taking care of someone, maybe you’ve been traveling, maybe you have a lot going on at work or in your personal life that’s draining your Energy. Whatever the reason, recognize that the Energy you have to overcome the Initial inertia is lower.

With all of that in mind, lower the bar to getting started — make it super easy. You just need to put your shoes on, you don’t need to run 3 miles. You just need to open your document, you don’t have to write 1000 words.

And find a way to get your Energy up, to overcome the Inertia. Make a promise to someone, do it with others, play some music, move your body, get some inspiration. Then direct the Energy to the smallest possible first step.

Fear vs. Possibility: Opposing Motivating Forces

Sometimes we’re motivated by Fear — the need to do something so we don’t let others down or get punished. But often Fear has a demotivating effect: we don’t want to fail or embarrass ourselves, so we procrastinate.

Fear is inevitable, if we allow ourselves to think of Possibility. Anyting that would be amazing — if I exercise I can get super healthy and fit, if I work on this project it could make a meaningful impact, if I pursue this goal it will change my life. This is Possibility.

We need Possibility to be motivated for the long-term — otherwise, we’re just pushing ourselves to do something we think we should do. That’s not very motivating. What’s the Possibility that lights up your heart?

When we let ourselves feel a big Possibility, we immediately feel an equal amount of Fear. They coexist equally. Most people then shut down the Possiiblity so they don’t have to feel the Fear. But that’s a life unfulfilled.

The way to work with this is to set aside the Fear and let ourselves get present to the Possibility that lights us up. Then to commit ourselves to it, and work with the Fear. Get present to the Fear as well, letting ourselves breathe deeply and soothing our nervous system. Then take the smallest next step.

A Structure & Community as Multipliers

If we have Possibility and Energy, we can mutiply them with two things:

• Structure: Energy dissipates if we don’t have Structure. Even if we’re able to increase our Energy and Possibility, without strong Structure it just spills out in all directions. We need to direct all of this with Structure — daily focus sessions, weekly planning and accountability sessions, monthly reviews. It can be fairly minimal, but we need to be committed to the Structure.
• Community: It’s hard to do things on our own. Having some kind of Community to be with you on the journey, to understand you and support you, is a multiplier of Possibility and Energy.

Don’t neglect these two elements if you want to stay motivated over the long term. We can get excited and inspired and be motivated for a day or three. But anything worthwhile will probably take longer, and for that, we need Structure and Community.

Fearless Mastery: What I’ve Created to Help

It can be confusing to find your way through all of these elements of motivation, even if they’re somewhat straightforward. To help, I’ve created Fearless Mastery 2025, my small group coaching and mastermind program.

Here’s how it helps with these elements of motivation:

1. We create Structure — weekly check-ins, weekly group calls, accountability partners, coaching sessions, a Demo Day each month for your project, and more.
2. It’s a Community — it’s a small group of fewer than 20 people, all working together for 8 months (starting March 4, 2025) to support each other’s meaningful projects.
3. Learn to work with Fear — a big part of the program is learning how to regulate your emotions so you can work masterfully with Fear when it shows up (and it will!).
4. Tactical steps — we help you find the tactical ideas needed to overcome Inertia and get started, every week and every day. That might take coaching along the way, as it’s hard to see on our own where we’re going wrong.

Leo Babauta

Zen Habits

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The Current Chaos and Our Collective Power

The Current Chaos and Our Collective Power

The One

Channel: Sophia Love

Posted on February 11, 2025

It is the One.

Thank you.

You have questions.

Yes. I wonder about these air disasters. I wonder about our collective power. I wonder about the acceleration we feel in almost every part of life.

Let us speak about the time you are living, for it is at the cause of every one of your wonderings.

Acceleration is a well-chosen term. Each part of your life accelerates, and there will be no part untouched.

Humanity chooses a “quick” Ascension. This was expected, yet the fallout was not. The quickening shows up in all things human. Once a choice is made it manifests at breakneck speed. This is due to both the choice and the energetic in which it is made.

We will explain so that comprehension occurs.

I am receiving it all at once. It is coming in completely formed.

Yes. Would you talk about what you see?

I’ll try. What I see goes back to the beginning.

The controllers who ran the Earth had to follow a method. First, there was exposure to what they wanted. This had to be maintained so that there was belief. Belief on our part. We had to believe that this reality they presented was the only “real” one.

Belief often accompanied fear. Humanity followed “orders” and “rules” and belief systems out of fear.

These controllers were brutal. They used the moniker of religion to cover a multitude of sins. Human sacrifice was built into the system from the start.

Systems, rules, and obedience created a world of “order,” more or less. The controllers kept that order in place with fear.

Go on.

There is so much coming in…

This concerns creation, which has been on my mind lately.

The controllers understand the “genie in the bottle.” It is us. Our thoughts and beliefs are creative. It is why they only need to create the culture. They did not have to physically enslave all of us to get us to do what they wanted. We’d do whatever we believed was “right.”

We learned what was “right” from them, from their control systems. They “taught” us to follow their rules in order to “win” the prizes they told us we should want.

Manifesting was not magic (according to them). It was the result of hard work, dedication, and following very specific steps. These steps followed rules and institutions. Rules and institutions that were put in place by them.

So, we did [follow those steps], and we’d see our dreams pop into our reality after a good deal of “time” passed. Creation was slow.

In the current energy, it’s not slow. The reasons for that are many, yet at the top of that list would be that the controllers have lost control. In these last five years, we’ve all seen the “Naked Emperor.”  We have noticed the lie.

This did something to our creative juices. We no longer follow any specific rules. The controllers have lost their stranglehold on the race, and we’re sort of running wild.

This means our thoughts are all over the place, and there is a good deal of scrambling. All of us are reaching for something, without looking for the control systems to give it to us or tell us what it should be.

This consciousness rising is turning the tide in our reality. Creation feels instantaneous. We see synchronicities everywhere.

We are also talking about them online and verbally. There is so much power in our collective creative ability.

This is what the control systems have attempted to harness for their own benefit for generations. We haven’t fully accepted responsibility for this yet, and so it feels as if no one is in control.

It looks that way too. There is so much blame. There is also unfocused fear. All of this is powerfully creative.

Yes. What occurs for the race now is a reset. This feels turbulent and unleashed. It feels as if creation is out of control. Until mankind accepts responsibility for its participation, it will continue to feel haphazard and potentially deadly.

Life is meant to be experienced “full-on.”  Where that “full-on” is focused determines the course your life takes.

Until recently, man has looked to “authority” for methods, rules, and benefits. This is a dismantling. We’ve said this before, yet you are in the middle of it now. As your world lets go and rebuilds, there will be disruption.

This is not to say that no one is to blame for events. It is to point out that you all have a part in their creation.

What you witness now is an amplification of your power.

You are here to learn how to harness and utilize your creative potential. It is time to take your head out of the basket and share what you know:

• Believe.
• Intend.
• Expect.
• Create.

In no time before this have your thoughts been so supported by the field in which they exist. You are accomplishing this shift on your own. So many souls wanted to be here for this.

You are.

Step into your power and create. The force in place to stop you is being removed. There is nothing in your way that will prevent you from accomplishing what it is you intend to accomplish.

You are love in human form, and by enclosing your creative power with compassion, your world shifts. What you are doing has never been done here. You are in for such a treat.

Thank you.

Sophia Love

• http://sophialove.org/

 

Mind of God

By Adama of Telos

Channel: Asara Adams

Posted on December 9, 2024

 

 

Greetings, Beloved Ones.

We are most joyous to connect with you here, today, and we send you our utmost Love from the heart of Telos.

Beloved One, as you are moving through your ascension journey, you will become more and more aware of the difference between your two minds.

One mind is the Ego Mind, which is trying to keep you in the Illusion.

The Illusion is lack, fear, judgement, criticism, bondage, anger, pain and so forth…

These thoughts of the Ego Mind are directed towards yourself and your world.

The other mind is The Mind Of God, which is calling you home, where only Peace, Love, Oneness and eternal Life exists.

As you are awakening from the dream of Illusion, the difference of these thoughts will become more and more clear.

This will allow you to choose between your thoughts and thus, direct the stream of your awareness towards one mind or the other.

Since the Ego Mind exists in the shadows and doesn’t want to be seen, there is assistance for you available to make it come out of the shadows.

This assistance is the Holy Spirit, the voice for God.

The Holy Spirit resides in your Mind of God to help you come home.

You might have had nudging toward better choices in your life…

That was the gentle way of the Holy Spirit helping you.

The Holy Spirit is the bridge between you and God.

Now that you know about the Holy Spirit, you can ask for more and more guidance.

You will begin to have new thoughts, different thoughts and sometimes hear a new voice within your mind.

These are the beginnings of your conscious connection to the Holy Spirit.

Begin to ask, listen and follow throughout your daily life. (even with little things.)

There will be more and more opportunities to either listen to the Ego Mind or to the Holy Spirit.

The choice is yours. Always.

We champion your victory in the Light!

Welcome Home!

We send you all so much love…

You are carried on the wings of Angels, to bring forth The New Earth.

Know in your cw heart, that you are always surrounded by your Angels, Ascended Masters, Guides, Galactic Families of Light and yes, also by your family and friends in Telos – and always will be.

Dear Ones, we are walking with you on this journey and you are loved beyond measure – always.

I am your brother Adama of Telos.

Asara Adams 

http://teloschannel.com/

 

Releasing Fear

Releasing Fear

The Creator Writings

Channel: Jennifer Farley

Posted on November 3, 2024

Some of you may have noticed that fear is showing itself more frequently than before. Fear can present itself as a great motivator, pushing you to do things out of the ordinary. It can test your faith in humankind and may be challenging to eradicate once it is established.

The Universe is here to remind you that it has never created, nor will it perpetuate feelings of fear! If you find yourself moving to an uncomfortable space, ask for assistance in releasing it and know you can continue your journey in comfort and safety. 

As always, you are loved unconditionally and supported by The Universe in everything you do.

The Creator

 

Jennifer Farley  

https://thecreatorwritings.wordpress.com

High resonating frequencies of Light are exposing pockets of dense energy

High resonating frequencies of Light are exposing pockets of dense energy

The Arcturian Group

Channel: Marilyn Raffaele

Posted on October 27, 2024

Dear readers welcome to our message which in reality is your message because the consciousness of the readers draws forth the message they are in alignment with.  

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All is proceeding according to plan.  High resonating frequencies of Light now flowing to earth from the sun are continuing to expose pockets of dense energy thousands of years old some of which is presently manifesting as war. If or when  personal clearings become physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually draining and difficult allow them to unfold rather than automatically responding with fear and resistance. Always remember that releasing of old  energy is a forward step not a backward one in spite of the effects  that often accompany them.  Trust that your higher self is  always governing the process and does not need direction as to how to do it.

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Be prepared for an approaching time of chaos and fear that will especially affect those  resisting change and promoting the return of obsolete concepts rather than allowing earth to evolve  into a new and higher resonating world of oneness.  Remember that earth and all life on her is spiritual rather than the material/physical sense of everything that most have come to accept as being  the real world. 

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You have and utilize a material/physical vehicle on earth because it is necessary for living  in the lower resonating frequencies of a three dimensional planet but  you never become that body. You travel in a car, but never become the car. You are not, never have been, and never can be just material/ physical and doubting, resisting, or denying this doesn't change the fact that you are spiritual. 

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Present times are difficult and frightening for those who have built their foundation on three dimensional concepts they believe guarantee them safety, security, and happiness. When these concepts are questioned or changed they lash out in anger, fear, and resistance in attempts to keep the status quo constituting their security.  Fear is the natural expression of a consciousness of separation and is the source of all violence, resistance, power over, war, abuse, suffering, hatred, self-righteousness, and suicide.

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No one can stop the spiritual ascension process taking place at this time because the earth is not material.  Earth is the manifestation of a Divine Idea in the mind of God infinitely perfect, whole, complete, and beautiful.  As with all concepts, material concepts of earth must eventually collapse because  belief is all that maintains and sustains concepts.  As mankind spiritually evolves and earth's collective consciousness becomes more spiritually enlightened, its creations will begin to more closely reflect reality.

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Earth as a three dimensional planet has been the perfect place for souls to learn and evolve because experience is  available on all levels. The first stage is the physical, where the person experiences all their  pains and pleasures physically. Next the soul begins to develop on the mental level noticing beauty and thinking of people and things outside of self. Then the emotional level unfolds and the soul begins to experience and understand emotions of self and others. Most live many lifetimes from these three levels until at some point they are prepared to learn about and experience the spiritual truth about  earth, him/her self, and all life. 

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Souls choosing to evolve through "earth school" learn from lifetimes  lived as every skin color, both genders, lives short and long, some very difficult and some not--experiences only a three dimensional planet can offer.  When a soul has  learned everything necessary from the three dimensional level and has completed his/her contract, they no longer need to keep reincarnating on earth but can continue their evolution in the higher realms or on a more advanced planet.

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The spiritual ascension of earth is the reason so many evolved souls with no further need for three dimensional  lessons volunteered to incarnate once again.  Most evolved souls appear to be  ordinary humans living ordinary lives but in reality they are lifting earth's frequencies and  seeding the collective consciousness with truth and Light simply through the presence on earth of their evolved states of consciousness.  As truth and Light increases in collective consciousness, increasingly more individuals can and will access it,  lifting and shifting earth's overall vibration.  

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Never forget that earth is a spiritual universe, every person's real identity is divine, and that every life is in and of the only life.  Do not attempt to understand this with your mind because human minds are  limited by personal conditioning and collective belief.  God is infinite and spiritual, and thus incomprehensible to finite, limited, and conditioned minds although many have tried and many more think they have accomplished it. However, God is always revealing  ITself but speaks in a small still voice that must be listened for.   

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Regardless of how real the material/physical world may seem even in its highest and best forms, it can only ever be the illusory dream that mankind has been dreaming for thousands of years that they themselves created out of duality, separation, and two powers.  Life lived on earth is  like watching a film or play.  You become fully engrossed and feel the emotions of every good and bad situation and even begin to identify with the characters, but there comes a point at which the curtain comes down, the house lights turn on, and you find yourself being yourself once again.  The lights of earth are turning on and the three dimensional curtain is coming down. 

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Spiritual evolution can never be stopped because it is not an event but is a revealing.  Spiritual reality has always been fully present, but majority states of consciousness remain unable to energetically align with anything other than what they can see hear, taste, touch or smell with the physical senses.  However, this is rapidly changing and many are waking up into new and higher states of awareness.

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You cannot go beyond omnipresence, omniscience, omnipotence. 

We are the Arcturian Group

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Love and Joy are Your Greatest Protection

Love and Joy are Your Greatest Protection

The Angels

Channel: Ann Albers

Posted on October 27, 2024

 

My dear friends, we love you so very much,

There are those who believe as you do and those who do not, but in the depths of human hearts, you are all more alike than different. Your deepest wishes, although the forms may vary, are nearly identical in essence.

You all want security. You all want to feel free and in charge of your lives. You all want the opportunity to live in a way that feels purposeful and pleasing to you. You all want to feel connected to life and what you believe to be a higher power. You want to experience health, abundance, and joy in one way or another, and you are all, without exception, seeking an experience of expanding love. The qualities you desire to experience are the same. The only thing that differs is the way you wish to experience them.

The majority of conflicts in humanity arise from fear — from feeling as if there is only one way to have what you want and only if you get your way. There is a great fear that if others don’t cooperate or comply, you could be robbed of your own hopes and dreams. What if someone doesn’t agree with you? What if they get in your way? What if you want to sell a house but no one is interested, or you want a raise, but you are denied? What if your candidate does not get elected? What if a loved one leaves the planet?

How on earth can you experience what you desire when it appears that so many of your desires rely on the cooperation of others?

We have heard these and similar questions throughout the ages. They are legitimate questions and very understandable when you look at the world through the lens of material, 3D reality. In the material sense, an uncooperative person can indeed stand in the way of your hopes and dreams, but in the energetic paradigm, dear ones, the river of love can flow around any and all who create such “obstacles” to your wishes. The Divine can help you to create change and connect you with those who naturally and easily fit your life and your dreams.

Suppose you want a specific job, but the person who interviews you prefers someone else. You may feel slighted. You may feel you were not given a fair chance. You may be right.  However, from our perspective, that job is not a perfect fit for you. You want to work in an environment that wants you.

Suppose you did get the job and love it, but two years later, a difficult coworker is hired. You might feel that this person has ruined your perfect job. Nonetheless, if you are willing to stay in your own vibration, remove attention from unwanted behaviors, and focus on how you want to feel, the situation will inevitably shift. An unpleasant person will not stay long in pleasant and happy energy if they can’t get a reaction. You may be guided to leave, or they may decide to leave. You may be laid off only to enjoy some downtime and then connect with an even better job. The situation may simply dissipate.

Even the difficult people who present so-called obstacles in your path, in retrospect, can be seen as the catalysts that help you move forward into a better future.

Suppose you love one political candidate, and someone else gets in office. For many of you facing your elections, this will be a reality. Two can’t sit in the same chair! However, dear ones, does that mean that you will suffer because of someone else’s action? Only you can decide that. Can you pray for the one sitting in the chair to have the love of God rise from within and to make wise decisions? Instead of fearing someone else’s influence, you can focus on the qualities you wish to live and enjoy in your own life.

Trust that God is still God and no matter who appears to be in charge, God can find ways to care for your heart, that feel wonderful to you.

Even in countries torn by war, there are those still living amazing lives. You have the power to align with the Divine or not dear friends, and aligned with God, you give the Creator—the ultimate lover of life itself, the parent of all Creation, the Being that wants you to live a life that feels loving to you—the power to help you live your life in a way that is pleasing, supportive, and in harmony with the ones around you.

You will all find great relief as you release your need for others to behave as you wish and instead focus on how you want to feel in your life. Look at what is pleasing to you and empower it with your attention. Pray for all beings to know God’s love. If someone is upsetting to you, imagine the light of love pouring towards them, but also into yourself.

Dear ones, you are One. It is hard to imagine that you are part of the same field of love as those you adore and those you despise. They are waves in the Ocean of Love, just as you are. Some you want to dance with, and some you don’t, and that is fine, but remember always that deep within you, there lives a light that connects all things and all beings.

This Presence wants you and all to have the experiences you wish for. If you are refused one opportunity, assume a better one is coming. If one person rejects you, they are redirecting you to those who will love you more. If the person in office has policies you don’t like, make it your policy to labor in love and adhere to your own values in your own life and your own circles so as to experience the quality of life you desire.

You did not come to earth seeking sameness. You did not come to earth intending to rely on the agreement of others to feel the love and security of the Divine. You came, dear ones, eager for the buffet of life itself, for it is in looking at the differences that you discern your truth and your desires and then have the opportunity to align with them in your own life.

Fear not, dear friends. God is with you. Whether you agree with someone or not, the Divine agrees that you all deserve to live a life you love, a life of security, happiness, health, and joy. Relax into that. Breathe. The power that creates universes is there for you always. We, your angels, are one with that and love you so much. Relax in our arms as well. In that love, there is nothing to fear.

God Bless You! We love you so very much.

The Angels.

Ann Albers

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Is It My Intuition or Fear?

Is It My Intuition or Fear?

By Julie Peters

Posted on October 17, 2024

Intuition and fear often feel similar but have very different effects on our decision-making processes. Explore a therapeutic perspective on differentiating between the two.

We all know that having a connection to our intuition is a good thing. It can help us differentiate a good friend from someone who is trying to take advantage of us. It can help us move toward what we want even when other people might disagree with our choices. It can help us know whether we should go up or down, right or left. Or can it?

Intuition is, essentially, our sixth sense. It’s a feeling of knowing beneath our cognitive understanding. It’s knowing without being able to explain how we know. But what if our intuition is broken? What if what we’ve been feeling all along is actually something else, like fear?

Where Does Intuition Come From?

Intuition is important, but it’s complex. On a literal level, intuition is a sense, judgment, feeling, or emotion that arises before we have time to cognitively decide how we feel. It doesn’t come from our prefrontal cortex, the rational, thinking aspect of our brains—it comes from more primitive places: older parts of the brain, like the amygdala, and our nervous system, which is more sensitive in our gut than in our mind. Intuitive information tends to come through the body, not the thinking mind.

What we must keep in mind is that most of this information is learned. Our intuition is essentially a collection of information that we’ve gathered throughout our lives that our bodies have stored in places that don’t need thinking to activate. If we’ve been traumatized by men, for example, our “intuitive” reaction to a new man might be to push him away—even if he’s a lovely person.

There may be something more to intuition, however. Many people believe we can access something bigger than ourselves when we pay attention. We could call this Spirit, the collective unconscious, guidance from angels or spirit guides, or advice from a higher self. This type of intuition is a little different, and it works differently from the aforementioned quick reactions based on past experiences.

A Gut Feeling Versus Spiritual Intuition

In my experience, this spiritual intuition is slower and more long acting. It shows up when we are paying attention without fear or judgment; when we are “tuned in” to ourselves or another person. One way to know if this type of intuition is true spiritual guidance or just fear is if it sticks around no matter your mood, over days, weeks, or even months. This type of guidance helps you grow and learn and not just keep you safe.

Another way of defining intuition is through understanding our inner emotional compass. We were born with the capacity to feel a number of core emotions that are intended to guide us specifically in our relationships. Fear is a core emotion that tells us something is unsafe. This emotion gets a pretty bad rap, and yes, it can hold us back when we’re confusing unsafe with uncomfortable. But when things are genuinely unsafe, we should listen to our fear and get away.

Similarly, anger is a much-maligned emotion that’s supposed to help us understand our needs and boundaries and ensure we are protected. When we constantly suppress our anger, we can’t discern what our needs and boundaries even are, let alone stand up for them.

With both fear and anger (and most of the other core emotions), it’s a good idea to measure these emotions against our intelligence and the general context of what we’re experiencing. Ideally, we don’t need to react the moment we feel these emotions, but rather slow down and feel into them so we can understand the message they are trying to give us, cleared of any emotional or contextual debris (like, for example, we are tired, hungry, or dysregulated).

Intuition and the Attachment Styles

Intuition may be most challenging when it comes to love. That’s because our love relationships tend to trigger our oldest relational wounds, and it’s very easy for fear to arise and tell us we’d better not take the risk (whether that’s to stay, leave, approach someone, etc.). We learn love through the dynamics we grew up with, so if love was associated with anxiety and abandonment, for example, our “intuition” may look for those feelings in love relationships and avoid someone who invokes feelings of safety and stability.

Most of us form an attachment style in childhood that can show up in our romantic relationships looking like intuition. If we grew up with secure, consistent love, we will tend to assume love is available and possible. We’ll be less likely to become dysregulated with our partners, and it might be easier to move into a safe, connected state when we can attend to our intuition.

If we grew up with inconsistency around love in some way (including the loss of a parent or experiences of trauma), we will tend to experience anxious attachment, which means we’re much less likely to trust in our lovers. Our intuition can be overridden by a need for reassurance and closeness—even when we don’t particularly like the person we’re with.

If our needs were consistently unmet in childhood, we tend to experience avoidant attachment, which means we feel safer alone, used to meeting our own needs without the complication of another. Our intuitive responses to love will tend to lean towards breakups, distance, and separateness because those experiences feel safer. We don’t decide these reactions cognitively; they are wired in as strategies to deal with stressful childhood experiences that influence us well into adulthood.

How to Discern Between Intuition and Fear

So how do we know if it’s intuition or fear? Well, there’s truly no simple answer to this question, as intuition and fear both come with so many layers based on what we’ve been through and how tapped in we are to Spirit and ourselves. As many of us have learned, even when we’re feeling tapped in and are listening to ourselves closely, our intuition can still turn out to be wrong.

It’s important we don’t think of this “sixth sense” as infallible, like being able to look into a crystal ball and tell the future. Especially when it comes to love, it takes time to get to know people and figure out if someone is a good choice for us in the long term. Some of the work around intuition might be about trusting ourselves to take risks and make mistakes and know we’ll be okay if things don’t go the way we hoped.

That being said, here are a few hints to be able to tell the difference between unreasonable fear and healthy intuition:

• Intuition comes through when you feel calm and safe, not when you are already dysregulated.

• If you’re afraid, ask yourself if you are actually in danger or if something simply feels uncomfortable, challenging, or unfamiliar.

• Pay attention to the intuitive feeling when it arises—does it pass when you eat well or get enough sleep or when an argument is resolved? Or does it stick around through various moods and cycles?

• Try to set aside overthinking and rationalization and notice what is happening in your body.
  Allow yourself to settle into one side of a decision. What do you feel in your body? If there is tension, nausea, and a sense of being “not right,” that is likely an intuitive “no.” Do the opposite, and look for a sense of settling, exhaling, calmness, and “rightness,” even if there might also be emotions like sadness and fear. That is closer to an intuitive “yes” from your body.

• Compare your intuitive feeling against your past experiences and the opinions of trusted friends and loved ones. Maybe even ask the opinion of various “parts” of yourself.

• Keep in mind that intuition is just one aspect of decision making, and it’s a good idea to use all your parts, your bodily reactions, your emotions, and your mind when deciding what to do.

Julie Peters

• https://www.spiritualityhealth.com/intuition-or-fear